Do I have it? Do I not have it? Have you ever asked yourself these questions about Your self-esteem and said "No. Not to the limit of LOW self-esteem. I'm confident and sure of myself" Well then how come you hesitate when it comes to making a strong decision? How come you doubt your abilities in taking something new? How come it's hard for you to trust someone?
These are some signs of Low self-esteem. Doubting those around you and not believing in your capabalities and hesitating every single time it comes to something new shows that you have a problem in believing you can do it. Listening to negative thoughts and underestimating who you can be and the things you can do are HUGE signs of low self-esteem. But let me tell you this some people have low self-esteem in some fields and are very confident in others. Like for example, and try to take this seriously, check out Joey in in the TV series "Friends". When it comes to girls he knows his stuff and knows exactly what to do but when it comes to acting auditions, he's intimidated and does a lousey job and doesn't get the part. Clear enough or do you need more? When it comes to our best friends we say everything, even things that you don't want to mention to yourself. But when it comes to your parents, you feel that they won't understand you so you get all nervous and doubt that you will be able to say the right things.
That's when you're low self-esteem crawled in. Those doubts and fears really make you feel uncomfortable. But they're all in your head. That little voice that tells you "Nope you'll mess up things", "No way would you get accepted at that job", or "No way will that person look my way or will they accept me as a husband/wife". Those crazy voices really ruin things for you and trust me they can all only be in your head. Yeah true we don't always get accepted where we want to be but that's not because you're not good enough or you don't have what it takes.
There are thousands of reasons. Sometimes it's as simple as the fact that the person in front of you who has issues and problems in making decisions so he made the wrong one by not accepting you. In other words what I'm trying to say is trust yourself and trust your judgements. Don't sit their blaming yourself for everything when you had nothing to do with the stituation in the first place. Know where your limits stand and where was your part in the whole situation and help yourself understand where was your mistake if there was one in the first place and fix for next time because trust me there will be a next time. But don't torture yourself with blame that it was all your fault. Sometimes like I said the person in front of you has alot of issues . Yes as simple as that. I'm not saying we don't make mistakes and sometimes we are to blame but don't go to the EXTREME! Don't torture yourself because it really brings you down and leaves a mark that might stay forever. And that mark will reappear to surface everytime you find yourself in a similar sitaution.
So trust your judgement and trust that positive voice inside of you that tells you to go ahead. You can do it. And tune off that doubting worried freaky voice in your head that is still hanged on to your past and keeps saying "what if's and no ways". I'm serious kill that voice and erase it. Build your self-esteem from now and believe in yourself that you can do it no matter what it is as long as it's good for you.
Peace out my friends :)
